Share your story.

Keywords - Resilience – Storytelling – Narrative – Journaling

In this episode of Resilience Unravelled Molly Sider,  a storytelling coach, shares her journey to discovering the power of personal narratives and how telling our stories can create connections with others. She encourages people to get vulnerable and share their stories in whatever way feels comfortable for them, whether it be with friends or writing it down. Molly emphasises that sharing our stories helps us humanise ourselves and others and creates compassion and empathy. The act of hiding our true selves takes up unnecessary energy, so we should aim to release these little bits about ourselves in order to live more authentically.

Main topics

  • The benefits of sharing personal stories and experiences.

  • How opening up can help individuals understand their core identity and values.

  • How privacy is okay for those who are uncomfortable with sharing personal details.

  • The importance of interpersonal communication in calming one's nervous system and reducing stress.

  • How listeners can start small by journaling or listening to others' stories before sharing their own.

Timestamps

1: Introduction Russell welcomes the audience and introduces Molly. 00:02
2: Getting to Know the Guest. Russell asks Molly how she is and about her background and how she discovered storytelling. 00:14-00:47
3: The Power of Storytelling. Molly talks about her experience with storytelling, the benefits of storytelling, and how it can create an immediate connection with the audience.02:38-06:23
4: Sharing Your Story. Molly and Russell talk about different ways to share your story, including journaling, talking to friends, and professional help. They also discuss the importance of picking and choosing when and how to share your story. 08:33-15:22
5: Listening to Other People's Stories. Molly and Russell discuss the importance of listening to other people's stories and how it can help you understand yourself better. 19:25-20:04
6: Working with the Guest. Molly talks about the work she does as a life coach and how she helps people share their change stories. 20:23-22:13
7: Conclusion. Russell thanks Molly and provides information on how to contact her.22:13-22:18

Action items

  • Listen to Molly’s podcast I Am This Age a platform for people who have made big life changes beyond 40 years old.

  • Find out more about Molly at mollysider.com

  • Listen to The Moth, a storytelling event available as a podcast.

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Paws for thought?

Back in 2017 Scottish brewer Brewdog announced that all employees who adopted a puppy or rescue dog could have one week’s paid leave to help settle in their new pet. Now, the increase in pet ownership that started during in pandemic has put the subject of paid leave to look after new pets back in the discussion of employee benefits.

Pawternity is the term used to describe the concept where companies offer their employees paid time off to take care of their new furry friends. Similar to maternity or paternity leave, pawternity leave recognises the importance of pets in our lives and the responsibility that comes with taking one on. Depending on the company policy, the leave can range from a few days to a couple of weeks and is designed to allow employees to bond with their new pet, provide necessary training, and ensure their pet's health and wellbeing during the crucial adjustment period.

Employers are not legally obliged to give their employees paid or unpaid ‘pawternity leave’ in the UK. Some do however because they consider it’s something that's valuable to their staff – essentially prioritising animal welfare but with a benefit to the organisation. A pawternity policy provides employees with all the benefits that come with pet ownership such as reduced blood pressure, lower stress levels and boosted mood. And, when employees are happier and more content, job satisfaction, office morale and employee productivity all improve. One study from the University of Warwick actually shows that happiness improves productivity by around 12%.

Of course, if the owners of new pets get time off work, what does everyone else get?  Whilst its great to offer employees generous perks, is it unfair to offer such benefits to a limited number of people? And where does it stop? Any organisation thinking of introducing a pawternity policy will have to be very clear on the terms - what constitutes a pet and whether the benefits will only apply to cat or dog owners or if they will be extended to other types of pet owners.

With all the current difficulties in attracting and retaining talent, Pawternity leave could appeal to people who value their work-life balance and the well being of their pets. With work related stress costing the UK economy millions of pounds each year in lost productivity, perhaps any way of cultivating a happier, healthier and more productive workforce should be considered?

 

Manic Mondays?

We've all been there. Waking up on a Monday morning and realising the weekend wasn't quite long enough to recover from the stress of the previous working week. If you've ever had similar feelings, the latest emerging workplace trend may well be something that might appeal to you.

Bare Minimum Monday is intended to lower all the feelings of anxiety and stress about the upcoming working week.  These start to build on a Sunday afternoon so the idea is to focus on your own mental health and wellness by giving yourself space and a sense of calm to better navigate your first day back to work.  Doing “the bare minimum” of what needs to be done on a Monday (along with whatever else you want to do) means you are better able to focus on larger or more complex tasks on your other working days.

The idea comes from TikTok creator Marisa Jo Mayes who sees it as a form of self-care and a way to fight back against the feelings of overwhelm, exhaustion work-related stress. By prioritising the self and avoiding stressors, better outcomes are achieved, there is a positive impact on employee wellbeing by protecting mental health and employees are happier and healthier in the long term.

Recent work trends such as the Great Resignation and Quiet Quitting have shown that employees are considering how their work impacts their mental health far more but Bare Minimum Monday would seem to be at odds with the classic models of self-care. These tend to be built on meaningful engagement, not avoiding or ignoring challenges and building ways to thrive. If employees are just doing the bare minimum, or getting the ‘Sunday Scaries’ it could be a sign of disengagement, which leads to the question, if you need to disengage from a job to cope with it, is it really the right job?

Expecting employees to be at the top of their game 100% of the time is unrealistic. We all have good days and bad days and its certain that there will be times when we are more productive and produce better quality work. Whilst it may be tempting to do as little as possible on Mondays to avoid stress, this approach may not be the most effective in the long run. It's important to find a balance between minimising stress and meeting work responsibilities. Instead of doing as little as possible, prioritising your tasks and finding ways to work more efficiently may be a better way to manage Manic Mondays.

 

Changing times. Leadership in the entertainment industry.

Keywords: Resilience – Leadership – Empathy – Entertainment Industry – Executive Coaching

In this episode of Resilience Unravelled, Dawn Kohler a writer and executive coach in the entertainment industry discusses how media and entertainment are going through cataclysmic change right now due to streaming services like Netflix and Amazon. This has kept her busy coaching leaders who struggle to develop themselves and their teams during times of uncertainty or turbulence. She discusses the evolution of leadership styles in the industry and the focus on empathy and accountability, and also touches on the importance of proper nurturing in parenting and how organisations can value the wisdom of elders while embracing diversity for growth.

Main topics

  • How the media industry reflects our society and shows how it has moved forward.

  • The evolution of leadership style and approach behind the screen.

  • Why adults need to hold space for somebody and listen to the acknowledgment of somebody being hurt by something they unintentionally or intentionally did.

  • A generational shift towards people who are resilient is happening because of leaders' great intentions with zero competence.

  • Building resilience means having the ability to get things wrong and put things right.

  • Why organisations should value the wisdom of the elders and have good mentoring programs.

Timestamps

1: Introduction to Dawn and her work as a writer and executive coach (00:00-01:34)
2: How Dawn found her path in the entertainment industry and her success dealing with the human dynamic during times of change (01:51-03:07)
3: The role of entertainment in reflecting society and representing different sectors of the population and emotional issues (03:38-05:56)
4: The evolution of leadership style or approach (06:01-07:01)
5: The power of communication and social media in giving viewers the ability to share their opinions and bring things to the surface (07:11-08:12)
6: The importance of empathy and acknowledging hurt when unintentionally or intentionally offending someone (12:07-14:11)
7: Dawn's work as an author and her latest book, "The Messages," which is a memoir that tells the underbelly of her own story (14:19-18:37)
8: The need for resilience and the importance of learning the ability to get things wrong and put things right (19:48-23:00)
9: The value of wisdom from elders in organisations and the importance of passing down corporate history (23:08-24:59)
10: The importance of escalation and having challenging conversations in organisations (24:51-26:14)

Dawn is also the author of three books, including her latest memoir "The Messages," which discusses her personal journey through severe abuse in childhood, which led to a shift in perspective and ultimately into the field of executive coaching.

Action points

  • Learn about Dawn at dawnkohler.com

  • Read Dawn’s book ‘The Messages. A Memoir’

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Healing the brain  

Keywords: Rewiring the Brain – Resilience – Mental Health – Repairing the Brain

In this episode of Resilience  Unravelled, Scott Warwick, an attorney and human resources professional for over 41 years, talks about his interest in mental health which stems from his son's Asperger's autism diagnosis. Scott has conducted subsequent research that revealed western medicine has a limited understanding of how the brain works. He highlights that chronic distress is the number one threat to people’s health and that people need to change their lifestyle holistically rather than rely on pills. Furthermore, that getting rid of toxic individuals in your life is crucial for maintaining good mental health as they can drain your energy like vampires.

Scott discusses the importance of taking care of our brain and how it affects overall health. He talks about the negative effects of stress and anxiety on the brain, as well as poor nutrition and lack of hydration and emphasises that a holistic approach including things like meditation, positive thinking, conflict resolution skills, and emotional intelligence training for managers is necessary. He also shares his personal story and authenticated scans in his book ‘Healing the Human Brain’ which highlights how he overcame challenges to repair his own brain function and how his son’s brain scan revealed issues which led to a journey of discovery and healing. The book also talks about the brain's ability to rewire itself and techniques for stress management.

Main topics:

  • Why chronic distress is the number one threat to health according to Harvard Medical College and the American Psychological Association.

  • How meditation and positive thinking can help rewire the brain.

  • Why a brain healthy workplace involves conflict resolution and emotional intelligence training for supervisors and managers.

  • How learning a new language can also help heal the brain.

  • The art of debate and mutual learning versus self-destruction in today's society.

  • The importance of finding a lifestyle that works for each person's unique needs

  • The need for better treatment of people in the workplace to promote productivity and leadership.

  • How to improve brain health through activities such as meditation and sports.

Timestamps:

1: Introduction - 00:02-00:39
2: Background. Scott discusses his unusual background and how it led to his interest in brain healing - 01:21-02:43
3: Healing Brain Concept. Scott discusses his son's brain condition and the journey they went through to heal it - 02:43-07:12
4: Rewiring the Brain. The process of rewiring the brain and the various methods used to achieve it - 07:12-17:54
5: Brain Healthy Environment. The importance of creating a brain healthy environment, including emotional intelligence and conflict resolution - 18:48-23:35
6: The Book. Scott discusses his book on brain healing and shares information on how to purchase it -  24:09-28:50
7: Conclusion and contact information - 28:50-29:13

Action points:

  • Learn more about Scott and his research and strategies for brain healing at https://scottwarrick.com/ His site allows viewers to access free videos on repairing their brain

  • Read his book ‘Healing the Human Brain’ which is available on Amazon.com

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Weathering the Storm: How Resilient Businesses Can Adapt to Climate Change by Katie Pierce

Adapting to the effects of climate change requires resiliency, not just from governments and businesses, but also from individuals and their everyday commuting habits. It is the only way we can build a sustainable future while weathering the storm. For businesses, adapting to climate change goes beyond protecting the environment. It also means surviving and thriving in the future. 

In this article, we will discuss how resilient businesses can stand strong in the face of climate-related challenges. 

Why Resiliency Matters in Adapting to Climate Change

Resilience is crucial in adapting to the impacts of climate change. It means having the capacity to bounce back quickly when we're knocked down.  Resilience is necessary to withstand extreme weather events such as floods, droughts, and hurricanes, and to reduce the potential for long-term harm. Building resilience can also help mitigate the impacts of climate change in the long term. Investing in resilient infrastructure, such as green roofs and permeable pavements, can protect communities from flooding and reduce greenhouse gas emissions.  Resilience is not a luxury, it's a necessity if we want to adapt to the challenges that lie ahead. It is needed to create a more sustainable future for ourselves and future generations.

Risk Assessment and Management

In today's rapidly changing climate, a savvy business understands the imperative of risk assessments to confront potential environmental challenges. But it's not enough to simply check the box and move on. To truly fortify their resilience, a wise enterprise invests in analysing these risks with a discerning eye, prioritising them based on their potential impact. Only then can they craft effective risk management plans, ready to withstand even the most daunting of scenarios. Yet, it doesn't end there. A truly resilient business remains nimble, consistently updating its risk assessments as new data and insights come to light. This adaptability allows them to stay ahead of emerging risks, a crucial asset in today's ever-changing landscape.

Adaptation Planning

In the face of an ever-evolving climate, a resilient business recognises the need for targeted adaptation plans designed to suit the unique risks they face. These plans go beyond just identifying potential threats. Instead, they leverage specific changes to operations, infrastructure, and supply chains to reduce vulnerability and build enduring fortitude. With such foresight and agility, a savvy enterprise can not only weather the storm but thrive in the midst of uncertainty, carving out a path to sustainable success.

Diversification

A truly resilient business understands the importance of diversification - in operations, supply chains, and beyond. By broadening their horizons, they reduce their dependence on any single geographic region or resource, effectively insulating themselves from the impacts of climate change. This means looking for alternative sources of raw materials and energy or even exploring new markets altogether. Doing so not only mitigates risk but also sets a business up for sustained growth and prosperity. In today's ever-shifting landscape, a willingness to adapt and explore new horizons is not just smart business - it's essential for survival.

Innovation

A resilient business doesn't just rely on old strategies to weather the storm of climate change. Instead, they cultivate a culture of innovation - one that encourages employees to think outside the box and develop novel solutions to complex challenges. By embracing emerging technologies, business models, and approaches, such an enterprise stays ahead of the curve. They adapt to evolving conditions and identify new opportunities that arise as a result of climate change. Through a willingness to experiment and explore new frontiers, a forward-thinking business can not only survive but also thrive. In the process, transforming adversity into opportunity and charting a path to long-term success.

Collaboration

Resilient businesses don’t just go it alone - they understand the power of collaboration. By working hand-in-hand with other stakeholders - from governments and NGOs to local communities - a savvy enterprise can develop the effective strategies needed to tackle the long-term challenges of climate change. Fostering collaborative partnerships and engaging with relevant stakeholders allows a business to tap into valuable insights and support. In turn, this builds the resilience needed to thrive in an ever-changing world.

In short, the path to success isn't a solitary journey - it's a shared one. It’s built on the foundations of trust, partnership, and the willingness to work together towards a common goal.

Climate-Related Financial Disclosure

The disclosure of financial risks and opportunities related to climate change is known as climate-related financial disclosure. It is an essential tool for businesses to manage their exposure to climate change risks and identify opportunities for growth and innovation. Resilient businesses recognise the importance of climate-related financial disclosure as it helps identify and mitigate climate change risks. It also provides stakeholders with a better understanding of the company's exposure to climate change. Climate-related financial disclosure also helps companies demonstrate their commitment to sustainability and responsible environmental practices, attracting investment from environmentally conscious investors.

Summing Up

Climate change presents significant challenges for businesses of all sizes and industries. However, by building resilience, businesses can effectively adapt to these challenges and position themselves for long-term success. 

If you want to learn more about resiliency in business, contact QED.

Guest Author

Katie Pierce is a teacher-slash-writer who loves telling stories to an audience, whether it’s bored adults in front of a computer screen or a bunch of hyperactive 4-year-olds. Writing keeps her sane (most of the time) and allows her to enjoy some quiet time in the evening before she walks into a room of screaming kids (all of whom she loves dearly) the next morning.

Sprinting towards life after loss.

In this episode of Resilience Unravelled, Jess Keefe, a writer and advocate for mental health and substance use disorders, discusses her personal experience with the issue after losing her younger brother to addiction. She highlights the need for science-based addiction treatment and challenges the stigma surrounding it. The conversation also touches on societal factors that contribute to addiction, including glamorisation of drug use in American culture and unfettered capitalism.

Jess and Russell discuss the conflicting messages in American society, where people are expected to be moral and responsible while being bombarded with toxic advertising. They debate the effectiveness of 12 step programs for addiction treatment, highlighting that it works best when individuals actively choose to participate and the lack of access to addiction treatment options is due to a complex system that prioritises profit over patient care. Effective addiction treatment involves ongoing support, medications, therapy, and social supports such as housing and jobs. The stigma surrounding drug use makes it difficult for people to seek help when they need it most.

Main topics:

  •  The issues related to high overdose rates in the US.

  • Why early intervention is important to prevent drug abuse.

  • Jess own experiences with drug abuse.

  • Why traditional forms of therapy, such as the Twelve Steps, are only effective for those who actively consent and want to participate.

  • The different forms of talk therapy and medication that can be used to treat addiction.

  • Why additional support such as career counselling and housing assistance is also important for sustained recovery.

  • Why the current healthcare system is not well-equipped to handle addiction treatment.

 Timestamps:

1. Introduction - 00:00-00:25
2. Personal Experience with addiction - 00:30-03:02
3. Early signs and coping mechanisms - 04:50-10:21
4. Treatment options and efficacy of Twelve Steps - 15:14-17:04
5. Challenges in getting help and support - 21:13-25:04
6. Writing a book and target audience - 26:19-30:18
7. Conclusion and contact information - 30:52-31:52

Jess also discusses her new book "Remind Me 30,000 Steps," which follows her journey through grief after losing her brother. The book is for people who have experienced addiction or know someone who has, explores the psychosocial factors of addiction and drug use while also providing a human story that people can relate to. She hopes the book will help others who have experienced loss or are curious about the issue of addiction.

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Adjacent skills. The answer to the skills gap?

With a widening of the skills gap and the on-going talent shortage, organisations are having to adapt their recruitment processes. The days of having people fit into strict job descriptions are long gone, now it’s about finding applicants with adjacent skills or upskilling existing employees who are capable of taking on in-demand roles.

Adjacent skills are skills that are closely related and complement each other through shared similarities. These skills are often used together in various tasks and jobs, and having proficiency in one skill can enhance the development and mastery of another. There are several reasons why an adjacent skills strategy can be effective:

  • It can fill a skills gap. By recruiting and developing people with skills just outside what’s required, you can close the gap.

  • It’s a cost-effective way to build skills. Training existing employees is generally more affordable than recruiting externally.

  • It can help with succession planning. Identifying high-potential employees who can develop the required skills means you can start preparing them for future roles.

There will of course be times when using adjacent skills just won’t work but inflation, the great resignation, quiet quitting and a possible recession means organisations need to stay flexible to ensure that they have access to the necessary talent when its needed. To achieve this, leaders need to connect their people and their adjacent skills with the organisation’s ever-changing needs in a strategic way through well-targeted reskilling and upskilling programmes.

The five rules of failure

Andrew Thorp King is an executive fintech banker, spy novelist, speaker, punk rocker, podcaster, ex-bodybuilder, cigar lover, and serial entrepreneur. He founded two independent record labels, Thorp Records and Sailor’s Grave Records, and has invested in many spaces, including online lending, fitness, lead generation, and independent music.

He is also a serial failure. Many people see failure as a single cataclysmic event but the definition of failure is a lack of success. It doesn't meet you’re finished forever it just means that whatever you've done hasn't been successful. There is a lot of drama about failure but it's really the best chance we have in our lives to learn.

Andrew thinks that failure sucks but that after that it rules. It’s something we want to void but if its unavoidable and part of the parcel of doing something that is difficult you need to predmeditively think about how you handle, leverage and optimise failure when it occurs. In his book Andrew outlines his five failure rules.

1. When failure happens it can purify and in that empty space its burns off something that needed to die, an old way of thinking, being or doing. The phoenix can emerge. Handled correctly you can become an objective observer of the failure and then take the experiences and gain from it – you’re not just resilient but more than resilient.

2. Nothing is safe. The impediment to living a bold courageous life in line with our true calling is clinging to safety. This doesn't mean taking unnecessary risks but placing safety first means it is probably something that will inhibit you from doing what you should be doing.

3. Money is spiritual. Used properly money is a tool. If you avoid greed and envy it can be a measurement of your usefulness in the world and also how you measure your thankfulness to others.

4. Build thing 1 and thing 2 dependency. This is the scaffolding, stable structure or platform that enables you to get where you want to be. You can’t just go head on with your dreams, you need structure to get there.

5. You are not your failure. You need to remove failure from yourself as failure is often something we cannot control.

Failure and success can be defined in many ways. We are all constantly evolving and failure is part of the journey. People often don't even know what success looks like for them because it is different for everyone. There is more than one indicator of success and Andrew defines success as finding a way to join yourself with your calling, by identifying and using your talents to their highest impact not necessarily monetary.

Many people feel a unique calling means you need to be an entrepreneur but that's not necessarily the case. Not everyone is cut out to be an entrepreneur and we need to understand our success to know our limitations. The challenge is the comparative aspect.

You can find out more about Andrew at https://www.andrewthorpking.com/

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5 Crucial Roles of Leadership in Forging Effective Communication Among Remote Tech Teams by Bash Sarmiento

The pandemic gave rise to remote work, and people have embraced it because of the flexibility that comes with it. However, a challenge that organisations have to deal with is team communication. Tech companies especially are struggling to maintain collaboration and communication within the teams. In the remote tech industry, effective communication is crucial to deliver the project on time, and to ensure the tech teams stay aligned and connected throughout, even when they are miles away.

It then becomes the task of the leader to forge effective communication among remote tech teams to keep everyone on the same page. A strong leader should not only promote clear communication channels but also encourage collaboration and work towards a common company objective. In this article, we will discuss the best ways to improve remote team communication and five crucial roles of leadership in forging effective communication among remote tech teams.

Set clear expectations:

When tech teams are working remotely, it becomes crucial for leaders to set clear communication expectations. Leaders can make use of communication channels such as email communication or work messaging apps such as Slack that promote asynchronous communication within the team. Leaders have to be vigilant and hold daily standups to share work updates and regular progress.

These communication channels help employees understand company goals and keep them aligned with these goals. Team leaders can enable a positive and open work environment that encourages open dialogues and collaboration between remote tech teams.

One important thing is ensuring that the team leaders communicate clearly about meetings, project deadlines, and protocols for reporting progress regularly. This helps team members stay organised and productive and enhances communication without hassle.

Make use of technology:

As the world has gone digital over the last few years, modern technology has made its mark in almost all fields of life, from business to education and more. Even in remote work, technology allows us to be more productive while reducing our workload. For remote tech teams, leaders can help improve communication by encouraging the use of modern technology.

Technology can help automate communication processes which, as a result, saves us a lot of time and resources while increasing efficiency within the remote teams. For example, automated email responses about project deadlines or meetings can be sent to team members as reminders.

Moreover, with apps like Slack, Trello, or Google meetings, team members can easily communicate, share screens, schedule meetings, share ideas, get inspiration, and collaborate on projects. More tech advancements such as cloud storage and remote access software help store project information on cloud technology, and members can access everything remotely. Hence, both team leaders and employees can have access to updates and project progress that enables them to become more productive and efficient.

Build transparency among the team:

Transparency is crucial in remote work settings, particularly in the tech industry. When team leaders build a transparent work environment, it gives them several advantages such as:

  • Build trust by putting efforts into creating open communication.

  • Encourage open dialogue so that employees can share their thoughts and ideas.

  • Reduce conflicts and creates a harmonious workplace setting.

  • Improve the decision-making process as transparency gives employees a better understanding of the reasoning behind decisions.

  • Enhance accountability about actions and decisions of team members and leaders alike and improves manager engagement

Leaders must be transparent, open, and honest during communication and promote it to build trust within the remote team.

Provide consistent feedback:

Providing regular feedback plays a huge role in forging effective communication within remote tech teams. The team's overall progress toward the project's goals should be tracked, as well as the progress of individual team members. Leaders should also encourage team members to provide feedback on their work and identify areas for improvement.

By doing so, any problems may be found early on, and the project can avoid delays or obstacles. This will encourage communication and allow for a more productive and efficient work environment.

Foster a positive culture.

Finally, leaders must foster a positive culture within the digital workspace of the tech teams. This can be achieved through team-building activities, virtual social events, and encouraging team members to collaborate and work together. Additionally, leaders should recognize team members' achievements and provide opportunities for professional development. Fostering a positive culture can help keep team members motivated and engaged, enabling them to work more effectively as a team.

What to Avoid When Forging Effective Communication Among Remote Tech Teams?

  • Never try to micromanage your tech teams. Use communication apps and software to set expectations and create to-do lists and let your team do the work on their own.

  • Don’t ask for constant communication, as it can shift the focus from work. Instead, use an asynchronous communication approach for remote tech teams.

  • All communication should be for a specific purpose. Don’t send useless messages and expect the employees to communicate.

  • Don’t forget to time meetings and speakers to prevent taking up too much of your teams’ time.

Conclusion:

Effective communication is the most important factor in determining remote tech teams' success. Leaders play a crucial role in forging effective communication for remote tech teams. The above-mentioned leader roles and strategies help remote teams to collaborate, stay productive, achieve project objectives, and communicate effectively.

 Guest Author

Bash Sarmiento is a writer and an educator from Manila. He writes laconic pieces in the education, lifestyle and health realms. His academic background and extensive experience in teaching, textbook evaluation, business management and traveling are translated in his works.

Choosing joy. The life we should be living.

Connie Monroe left corporate America in 2012 and now runs her own coaching company where she helps people get through big life events. Connie had no plan to work in finance it was something she just fell into. Having put herself through university she had a lot of student loads to pay back and her cousin was working in large company with lots of vacancies. It was the dot.com boom and she thought she’d go there and then figure things out.  She didn't enjoy the first three years at all but she then became a manager and her role changed. She was actually managing people which she started to enjoy.

 She was working in client services and she came to realise that many people went into those positions for other reasons. She had fifteen people in her team and at least ten of them were there for other intensions - they wanted to go the trading floor, wanted to get into HR or didn't want to be processing every day. The other thing she found was that after two or three years people were getting lazy. Her question was why are you still here, is there a way we can we help you to move on? The most satisfying thing for her was to help someone move on and bring someone new in.

People get stuck for many reasons but life is not a rehearsal and there is no reason to not be happy doing what you’re doing. As a manager, if your people aren’t happy they are not going to do good work. Connie stayed in her role for sixteen years because she enjoyed trying to help other people through coaching and personal development. Eventually though she realised she needed to find a way out for herself. She hired her own coach in 2011 and had a session once a week for about twelve weeks. Her coach came up with some different scenarios, the favourite being to combine her love of writing with her love of mentoring to write a book.

Since that time the online sphere has really boomed and now allows us to do far more things online. Most of the people she now helps are in a career transition and she uses her Joy Method which asks where are you on your journey and what is your relationship with others. After you look at those two things, you can look at you and how you fit in.

Connie feels she had very good role models in her life. Her mother brought her up after her father left when she was nine. Her mother went back to school to become a nurse so was a huge hero to her. She also had a cheer leading coach who really believed in her so she had people in her life who put her on the path to help other people. When she came out of university, she worked with a headhunter who tried a lot of different things for her including fashion and publishing but told her the one industry she wouldn't put her in was finance. When Connie told her that was what she was going in to she was told she would be miserable which of course she was. 

Connie now lives in Costa Rica with her partner who she has been with for eighteen years. When they were dating in 2007 they went there on vacation and really loved it. They kept comparing it to everywhere else and in 2008 an opportunity came up to work there for a while. They brought a house there in 2012 and over time spent more time there until they moved there permanently in 2017.

Some people never have a sense of awakening but if you’re not happy to get out of bed and face your life then it's a sign you’re stuck. People can throw themselves into their professional life because they’re not happy in their personal life whilst others seem externally happy but know something is missing or not quite right. Some people never realise it but if you’re on the wrong path something will be tapping on your shoulder.

Often what brought you joy as a child has a thread that keeps you going back. It can be something really obvious. One of Connie’s friends was very ill as a child and now works in the medical field. There is a feeling that we should be somewhere else and if you keep this down for a number of years your brain will eventually start telling you that its OK, this is where your comfortable. However, if you start telling it I need to find a way to get out of here it can be a lot better. Most of us are living a fraction of the life we should be living.

You can find out more about Connie at http://monroecoaching.com Her book is ‘Holding onto Joy Through Abandonment & Divorce

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The challenge of working in a family business

David Bentall is based in Vancouver and has really has two careers. The first was following his father and grandfather into the family real estate and construction businesses where he rose to be the President of Commercial Construction. However, as can happen with family businesses, things went sour when his father and two of his brothers fell out and the business was sold. Since then, David has become an author and consultant, using his to help other families to get a better result.

Family businesses are the backbone of the global economy. One of the biggest challenges they face is the relationship between different aspects of the business, the corporate role/personal relationship or the owner/employee. David was only an 8% owner of the family business but he wanted to put his ownership hat on all the time. On reflection, he realises that he needed to learn to use his employee hat more often. There is also the relationship between the founders of the business, the 2nd generation who drive things forward and then the 3rd generation where often things start to go wrong. There is a lot of background evidence around the ideas of succession and moving the business forward. Bringing new ideas on board can be difficult because of the power dynamics in a family business.

One of the critical dynamics of a family business is to manage relationships. Before you manage businesses, you have to manage yourself. David is very interested in the role of Emotional Intelligence as a catalyst for better relationships. He thinks that if he had been more patient it would have made a difference in his relationship with his family. He thought being impatient was a virtue, he was a young, driving executive who wanted to make things happen but making things happen destroyed his relationship with his uncle. The two characteristics David thinks would have made a difference are more patience and more humility.

Many people come into a family business as part of the succession plan and never work anywhere else. David feels they need work outside of the family business to gain some perspective. He worked for two years for an outside company and found there were many advantages but the main one was to develop credibility with both non-family employees and with other family members.

Working with an outside company helps develop different skills such as dealing with people.  You might not like other members of your family but they might be good at driving the business forward.  Skills need to be developed and it’s good to get genuine feedback from other people about your performance. At one point David had a mentor who would ask all eleven of the vice presidents working for David what things he had done badly recently.  He would then back and they would sort it out – in other words he got the real world thrown in his face twice a year!

The role of ego is also important. David played sport at college so he learned how important it was to be self-confident as an athlete but right beside this is pride. When he was brought into the family company he had a very inflated view of himself and this was further fuelled by his father who wanted him to become president. He could see no wrong in David and as he was the largest shareholder and president of the board it allowed David’s confidence in himself to undermine his willingness to admit he didn't know everything. Arrogance and pride can be an enormous problem and he thought he had all the answers.

There is a balance to be had between confidence and assuredness and arrogance and obstinacy. Sometimes wisdom brings that to the point of fruition. Wisdom comes from making mistakes - you can be wise and 20 or 60 and not wise at all. In his 40s David took up competitive water skiing and he was often nervous before an event. He told his coach that he wanted to be more self confident but the coach said that wasn’t the case, what was needed was to be confident in the process. There is a difference between focusing on doing the right things and thinking you are always right.

In some family businesses things are left to chance, things are not written down, not made clear about how things are set up and meant to work. There is an implied trust that everyone is working together but this is a dangerous assumption to build a company on. Family members are not always loyal and can decide not to work together. They don't always get on well and one person can turn against the rest of the family is they feel there is something to gain. Family bonds are more personal and can be more vicious. 

You can find out more about David at nextstepadvisors.ca David is also an author and his book, Dear Younger Me: Wisdom for Family Enterprise Successors explores the character traits critical for navigating the interpersonal demands of a family business enterprise.

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Leading in the hybrid world


For large numbers of people working wherever and whenever they want is now a reality. However, whilst increased flexibility and reduced commuting times are a positive for employees, leaders are dealing with the reality of a hybrid working model.

Leading a hybrid team can be complex. Leaders have to create a collaborative, cohesive culture that merges remote workers with office-based teams. They need to maintain consistently high performance and productivity and deal with interpersonal conflict. They also need to engage and develop talent, lead and support change initiatives, establish goals and priorities and create a sense of inclusion and belonging.

Leaders need to focus on:

1.     Communication: In a hybrid workplace, communication is more important than ever. Leaders must ensure that all team members feel included, informed, and engaged, regardless of where they work. Regular communication channels should be established, such as weekly team meetings, daily check-ins, and virtual office hours. Leaders should also make an effort to communicate in multiple formats, such as video calls, emails, and instant messaging, to accommodate different working styles and schedules.

2.     Flexibility: The hybrid workplace requires leaders to be more flexible in terms of work schedules, work arrangements, and deadlines. Leaders should be open to accommodating different work styles and preferences, and be willing to adapt to the needs of their team members. They should also provide the necessary resources and tools to enable remote workers to be productive and successful.

3.     Trust: Trust is a key component of effective leadership in the hybrid workplace. Leaders must trust their team members to work independently and manage their time effectively, while also being available for collaboration and communication. This requires clear expectations, open communication, and a culture of accountability.

4.     Inclusion: In a hybrid workplace, it's important to ensure that all team members feel included and valued, regardless of where they work. Leaders should be proactive in creating opportunities for team building, such as virtual social events and team-building activities, to foster a sense of community and connection.

5.     Technology: Technology plays a critical role in the hybrid workplace, and leaders must ensure that their team members have access to the tools and resources they need to be productive and successful. This includes providing remote workers with the necessary hardware, software, and training to use technology effectively, as well as ensuring that in-person and remote workers can collaborate seamlessly.

6.     Feedback: Providing regular feedback is essential in the hybrid workplace to ensure that team members are on track and achieving their goals. Leaders should establish a regular feedback schedule and be proactive in providing both positive feedback and constructive criticism.

Overall, effective leadership in the hybrid workplace requires a combination of clear communication, building trust, flexibility, embracing technology, and creating a culture of inclusivity. With these key aspects in mind, leaders can effectively manage and guide their teams and achieve their organisational goals regardless of where they work.

The leadership journey

Lisa Marie Platske lives on an 86 acre farm in Kentucky and from there runs her own leadership and development company where she offers corporate retreats and works with leaders individually and in groups. Her belief is that most people want health, happiness success and meaning in their lives and that the meaning comes from contribution and the desire to make a bigger difference.

People talk about the idea of ‘bigger than myself’ and originally Lisa’s journey was thinking that leadership was very much tactical - you hire, you fire, you work in culture and change. She recognised over time that leadership is a very personal journey. When one doesn't take that journey personally and it is simply about the tactical there is something missing. When you ask about where does this idea of meaning and making a difference in the other and the group comes from, for her it came when she was interviewing leaders and asking what it was they did to be successful. She thought at the time it was about the tactical but came to recognise that each of the leaders took the journey themselves around planning and understanding their personality and creating partnerships.

Lisa also believes that sense of the collective and almost feeling an emptiness when the focus is solely on the self comes from recognising that we are part of the greater fabric of humanity. We are the behaviours we engage in; in how we think and in the actions we take. When somebody engages in their own leadership journey and comes to this awareness, there is more conversation as people move up that hierarchy of basic needs once those are met.

Lisa developed the 7 Pillars of Leadership from the interviews she did with leaders. Her career had been in Federal law enforcement and she didn’t have any background in business. When she started doing the interviews she wanted a short cut in business. What do the best leaders do?  How do they do it? Can this shorten my learning curve? The 7 Pillars came from themes and all start with the letter Plan, Personality, Partnerships, Priority, Presence, Progress and Personal and Professional Development.

You can find out more about Lisa Marie at www.upsidethinkinking

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Executive loneliness. Overcoming isolation in the business world.

Nick Jonsson was born in Sweden but he left in the 1990’s because he wanted to learn English. He moved to Australia where he played golf professionally for a few years before moving to South East Asia where he has lived and worked since 2004.  Mainly working in Indonesia, Vietnam and Thailand, Nick took on a number of MD roles leading large international companies.  After a while Nick realised he was quite lonely and he can now see he was isolated perhaps because he had ‘elbowed’ his way to the top, something many executives do. He changed his life, leaving the corporate world five years ago and now knows many other senior executives find themselves in an isolation trap.

Nick tried to balance the stresses of his working life by playing hard. Initially he did this through exercise but life had its ups and down and he was divorced in 2015.  This left him feeling even more isolated both at work and at home so it was natural that he wanted to go out and meet people. It was a lot easier to go to the bar instead of going to the gym and having a couple of drinks was OK in the short term but it became a bad habit. He stopped his gym membership and became a regular at the bar, which in turn became a downward spiral. He realised a change was needed but this was very slow. At the time his friends were happy to see he was out and about, it was good to see him enjoying himself, they were worried about him just exercising and being on his own. It felt natural and he didn’t realise it before it was too late. He put on a lot of weight, his health deteriorated, he had hypertension and high blood pressure. He was only 42 years old and was in poor health.

Then with the added stress of work it got to the point where he couldn't stop the drinking. He realised he was addicted. It had been secret and silent for a long time and he didn't want to admit he had an addiction and issues. He was at rock bottom but had to admit it to himself and to other people to get out of it. People had thought he was coping and didn't have a problem with drink and it's the same with loneliness. It seems as if everything is OK until you suddenly realise it’s a problem. Until you realise it's a problem you don't know its problem.

Once he was on his way to recovery, Nick wanted to know if he was the only one suffering in this way. He sent out a survey to other senior executives to find out how lonely they were in their roles. His first finding in 2019 was before the pandemic and showed that 30% of the senior executives he surveyed actually admitted they were suffering from loneliness in the workplace. He went back to the same group in 2020 during the pandemic and the figure had gone up to 59%. He was definitely not alone!

The senior executives Nick surveyed worked in the C-Suite in large multinationals based in Singapore. A number of them were European or American, working as regional directors in large companies so they were displaced from their home countries and often only had their immediate family with them. They needed a different type of support without knowing it.

Nick knew about the loneliness so the next question he asked then was whether this was something they would talk to HR or their boss to. The answer was that 84% wouldn't. The type of role they were in meant they were the people who needed to be seen as being the strongest and stereotypically not able to ask for help. Some people have external executive coaches but many people find it hard to trust internal bosses or HR so who did they turn to? When asked do you seek professional help 75% said no so they were coping by themselves. Nick feels that one of the few good things that came out of the was that psychologists and therapists could be seen online so people could start to reach out without being seen in a waiting room somewhere. Anonymity is there now so there has been some progress but people are still reluctant to talk about it and seem to deny it because the stigma is still there.

Many of these leaders are what Nick calls anxious over achievers like himself. He was not good at high school went overseas to study at university. Once he got a taste of winning scholarships and topping some classes he wanted to take it to the workplace.  What was important was getting to the top, getting power and getting promotions packages. What he saw when he conducted his interviews was that many were as anxious as he had been and thought the way to prove themselves was to achieve and get power in the company. There are many leaders walking around feeling very anxious.

Men tend to define themselves by their work about what they have rather than who they are. If the job is lonely then that's what you've striven for and your sense of achievement is linked to. The realisation that this can feel empty can have a real impact. Nick found that women tended to have a few close friends that they could be vulnerable with. They could share some of the challenges or issues facing them. If you are exposing yourself to a friend that friend will help and guide you but men often have good friends to play golf with, to have couple of drinks with or have a good time with.  Nick’s way of relaxing meant not bothering friends with issues he was having at work, rather it was something he left at the office. He went out and had a good time but then woke up in the middle of the night worrying about a problem that was still there in the morning. He was bad at having someone to talk to about his issues and it was the same with many of the executives he interviewed.

Men can be just as emotionally intelligent as long as they are skilled up to be but there may be a cultural thing around the acceptance that men shouldn’t talk to each other about difficult issues. The current generation breaking it down through and there is a new attitude. Some of this may come down to parenting. In Asia people are very quiet about what’s happening in their family and there is a lot of stigma about mental health and addictions generally.  People keep things to themselves a lot more than in the western world where we are speaking up a lot at the moment.

At work the leaders are often a parent substitute and need to create an adult culture where just deciding you don't like something isn’t OK because you still have to come to work and perform. If leaders are lonely they will find it hard to provide a positive adult culture with supportive mechanisms right through. Vulnerability has to start at the top. No one is going to knock the bosses door and open up about the issues or challenges they are facing if the leader has never been seen to be vulnerable. Why are we all so scared of admitting to others that we are going through a challenging time?

The world of work is changing and although styles of leadership before Covid weren’t working, they are still are being pursued. A new style of leadership may be needed going forward. Career limiting mistakes can drive leaders to loneliness. The easiest thing to do is make a mistake - it’s not about all the brilliant decisions you make, its how few bad decisions you make. This is what leads to the dumming down of the average.  It’s a sign of weakness to make a mistake. Admitting weakness is a sign that we are struggling and that is a mistake. We need to change that. If you have a leader who is lonely, ethical decisions start to be comprised as well because the leader becomes weaker.

There is some positive change though. In his own company Nick operates a fail fast policy so as soon as you make a small mistake people need to admit it and share it so everyone can learn from it. If there is a culture where people are comfortable sharing their mistakes and what they learned from it, people would not be so scared and mistakes will be dealt with and not be so costly. For example, in Nick’s company the marketing team have an additional budget called ‘Test and Trial’ which they can use to try new things so if it doesn't work out its ok and people learn from the exercise.

Nick’s networking organisation, Executives’ Global Network (EGN) Singapore providing more than 600 senior executives and business owners with a safe and confidential space where they can share their challenges, receive support, and learn from each other. It’s as if you have your own private advisory board or an external management team. You can put your problem on the table for the facilitators or moderators to discuss and the aim is that executives leave a session feeling the pressure has been lifted. Just talking can help because even if they don't get the answer, they get sympathy and support. It’s a shared experience. The perception that people at the top don't get lonely is a very dangerous one.

You can find out more about Nick at nickjonsson.com

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Promote accountability for staff engagement

Being a business leader has never been easy, but the challenges facing organisations currently makes workplaces even more complex. Fast moving change and uncertainty means accountability and staff engagement can greatly impact the success of an organisation.

The link between accountability and engagement is well established. When employees are held accountable for their work and given clear expectations and goals, they are more likely to feel engaged and invested in their work. Conversely, when they feel disengaged, they may be less likely to take responsibility for their actions or meet their goals. Accountability promotes self-reliance and confidence and, as a result of increased cohesion and alignment, a happier, healthier office culture where employees clearly see the value they bring and are invested in the same vision of the company's success.

To promote accountability, organisations need to provide employees with clear expectations and goals, opportunities for growth and development, and regular feedback and recognition. A culture of transparency and open communication should be fostered, where employees feel comfortable raising concerns or sharing ideas and can develop as part of a team. Failure should be considered a learning opportunity and not a chance for managers to play the ‘blame game’. A healthy attitude to mistakes and failure is therefore needed and staff expectations should be grounded, realistic and achievable.

Accountability and staff engagement are crucial components of a successful and thriving organisation so, by prioritising these factors, organisations can create a more productive and engaged workforce and achieve greater success. From an employee perspective, having a level of personal control to focus on achievable goals and projects means they can manage their own outcomes and grow by learning from their mistakes.

Dealing with grief. The Suicide Club.

Alexandra Wyman is a pediatric occupational therapist working with children up to 18. In 2020 her husband passed away by suicide leaving her with a one-year old son. Her book The Suicide Club is about this experience and she wrote it to try to help guide others and in a way normalise the experience of the aftermath and loss of a loved one close to you.

The book is something she wishes had been around when he passed. She had lots of beautiful gifts but nothing really helped her through the business, the drama and trauma that can happen with other peoples grieving styles. Dealing with other peoples grief is a challenge because they often think by grieving so dramatically that somehow it’s helping you. But it’s really not – a trouble shared can be a trouble doubled sometimes.

People want to be helpful especially after a loss but people’s help is not always helpful. Often people will project their own ideas of grief or how to handle something onto others. It creates a sense of security and safety - if I grieve this way why isn’t everyone grieving in this way? There was a lot Alexandra learned about herself and how she liked to grieve and her grieving process did come under a lot of scrutiny initially so she had to navigate that as well. She feels that however you feel you need to grieve is absolutely OK and for someone else to have an opinion or to project that onto you is their stuff. Own what’s yours and try to set up boundaries around that.

Grief is individual but people like to moralise, contextualize and judge that you are not being sad enough, happy enough or down enough. People moralise about grief more than almost anything else and at times Alexandra was considered too cold, too businesslike and not grieving enough. People thought she was working through her process to quickly, that she should slow down because they thought she was trying to erase her husband. She realised she was a private griever. She would hold it together through the day for her son and then find time to let it all go in the evening. She also found that whilst she used to be a very big ‘huggy’ person after her husband died she didn’t want people to touch her. People wanted to hug her so that she could comfort them. They need to feel comfort from the person in the direct line of the loss. They feel comforted and can then continue moving forward.

Grief is a big emotion. It’s challenging and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. There is also no right or wrong way to deal with different types of grief. There can be a sudden loss or longer-term illness, the death of a child or suicide. Suicide has a lot more wrapped around it. No matter how prepared you are for someone to die there is always an element of shock even if you have been grieving for a while. When it comes specifically to suicide, there are so often things that we want to say to people and don't. With any type of loss part of the shock is that you don't get to say what you wanted to say to that person or you don't get to hear what you wanted to hear from that person.

Suicide is more complicated because there are also so many questions. How did we get here? Often there is an idea or a misconception that there are signs or that it’s planned. Alexandra has been participating in a local suicide support group and has come across two people where their loved ones did plan it but the most do not. When that happens it’s like ‘did I miss the signs’ or ‘what did I do’? We start to take responsibility as if the choice was not theirs and that I as the wife contributed to it. There is a higher level of responsibility that we put onto it and a lot of judgment and blame from society so it just compounds the ability to even grieve because you’re having to work through all of these items or parts of it that you can’t even unravel.

Alexandra feels that she needed the book to find out how to deal with other people’s grief. Her situation was complicated because there was some legal action against her and a possible case regarding the custody of her son. There was a lot of additional trauma that happened. Her husband didn't have a will and she didn’t know about anything that related to his job. It wasn't that they didn't communicate, it was just that they weren’t prepared. She needed to know that it was OK to set boundaries, to realise that she didn’t cause the situation or have to take the responsibility for someone else’s choice.

Suicide is a type of death that is no different to any other. Individuals who die in this way are in pain. Its not tangible but they are in pain and their pain is not any less because they decided to end their life to lose the pain. They didn't share the pain because they were protecting you from it in a way. It's a brave step to take. People say its cowardice but people close to it say it really isn’t at all. Its not bravery its just a solution or a removal of the pain.

Although Alexandra doesn’t agree with her husband’s decision she can understand how he got to it. That was a big shift for her and she was then able to start her healing by looking inwards, working through her own limiting beliefs and increasing her own toolbox. What messages had she taken on in regards to how she viewed suicide, her marriage, healing and personal growth? She had to work through those herself to get more clarity and healing.

Time is a component in healing but Alexandra also used a number of different resources. She tapped into everything she could and realised she needed different tools on different days. She encourages people to work through emotions because bypassing them just prolongs the grief. You have to sink into negative emotions and feel through all of them. Part of the grieving process is asking is it too early to move forward? We don't talk about death because we’re not comfortable with it. Alexandra feels that we should get things ready when we’re feeling happy and not wait for death to get things together. Think about your spirituality because this impacts the grieving process and it can change. Alexandra had a basis for what she believed but realised she needed to do a bit more soul searching to figure out where she really stood with this.

People can get stuck on the idea that life is linear – we like to say what life looks like to be successful but the reality is that life doesn't look like that. It’s unpredictable.  We don't know when things will things happen so we need to live our best life now and not put it off. If work or a relationship isn’t working for you or you aren’t happy, find something that does make you happy. We all deserve to have that level of happiness and joy.

Alexandra would encourage surviving friends and relatives to find something in their life that they can live for. This could be a person or a thing but whatever it is they have to work through their grief process for them. For Alexandra it was her son. She thought that he didn't deserve what had happened and that their lives did not have to be dictated by it. There will be days when you don't want to do anything and it hits you really hard and that when you need something to hang on to. The other thing is just to keep going. Sometimes it will feel that you have taken five steps back after you two hard won steps forward so you have to ride the waves and know you can get through.

 Find out more about Alexandra at forwardtojoy.com or visit The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death,

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The rise of the resentful employee

Over the past couple of years we’ve seen the rise of a number of workplace ‘buzzwords’ that describe the growing number of employees leaving their existing roles or becoming dissatisfied with their working life. ‘The Great Resignation’ and “Quiet Quitting ‘ have become well-established terms for people who are no longer satisfied with their work-life balance or are actively reassessing how work fits in with their priorities or lifestyle.

Now though there’s a new word hitting the world of work. Resenteeism is seen as a successor to ‘quiet quitting’ and describes a situation where employees are staying in jobs where they are fundamentally unhappy, feel underappreciated, undervalued and aren’t bothering to hide their dissatisfaction from their employer or co-workers!

This new trend seems to be in response to the unstable economy, challenging cost of living and redundancy and recession fears that are all prevalent at the moment. Employees who were thinking about leaving their existing roles are staying put so feel ‘stuck’ and frustrated by the lack of opportunity. This can very quickly create a negative work culture that discourages open communication and collaboration, affects the morale of colleagues, decreases productivity and engagement and increases workplace conflict.

In the Gallup State of the Global Workforce 2022 poll, the UK was ranked 33rd out of 38 European countries for workplace engagement with just 9% of UK workers being ‘actively engaged’ in their jobs. That’s worrying and really highlights how important it is for employers to have policies in place that head resenteeism off and ensures a productive and engaged workforce is maintained.

In what is a very volatile work environment, employers who promote a positive work culture that values employee well-being, encourages open dialogue and provides resources and support for managing physical and mental wellbeing, will be in a better place to halt the rise of the resentful employee.

Approaching change

Joe Caruso is a leadership coach who advises CEOs and leadership teams to optimise what they do and how they do it to get what they what in the fastest most efficient way possible. Most of the time if we are left on our own, we do more and more things that are less and less important to the customer. We become lost on our own thoughts and it becomes hard to think objectively about ourselves.

Any time we define a problem, we’ve immediately defined all the solutions our mind can’t consider just by the definition we choose. This type of thinking usually requires a candid experience assessment and a candid exchange of ideas.

Joe feels we need to move away from problem orientated thinking to solution orientated thinking and be able to think back to what could this could be or what else could this mean. These are the kind of questions that once a CEO speaks and gives their definition, people it as gospel. People will tell you that they like change but don't change anything. We tend to become too static in a dynamic world especially in market places that are changing every day.

We’re changing all the time cognitively, mentally and emotionally so the problem is perhaps management practices. The process of being changed or managed through change. Change is a problem in itself but change by its very nature is something we are very good at. The problem is how we approach change. The way we define it is the problem. The last thing people or businesses want to do is change identity.

Any time we define anything in our external world we use ourselves as the foundational context. Who you are affects how you define something. We start with the mind and a simple question is who am I or what have I become. Everything starts with how we think. Narrative is the foundational understanding of who I am. The more we learn about our own narrative the more we can recognise the narrative of others.

It’s about creating a corporate culture based on a compelling narrative that allows us to make sense of the world.  The first thing you need to do to create compelling is Identity. Something that everybody can agree with. Who are we as a collective mind? What problem are we trying to solve? What is our process? A leadership team is the best of what their profession is. But that's not a team that's just the top of the different divisions in the organisation. There has to be a trust and candor where everyone is able to talk on all areas. The CEO job is not to create excellence, it’s to create an environment where excellence can thrive.

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Overt or covert? Spot the narcissist in your workplace.


Most people find that their relationships with work colleagues have a huge affect on their wellbeing. Toxic relationships can lead to anxiety and depression and this can be particularly noticeable if you are working with a narcissist. But narcissist is a wide-ranging term that describes many different people who possess similar traits but who demonstrate different behaviours at different times. Generally though narcissists are thought of as incredibly self- centred with no consideration for the feelings and needs of others. While many narcissists do behave this way, there are many other who exhibit completely different behaviours that make them far more difficult to spot.

Two of the better-known types of narcissism are overt and covert. Whilst both share the same behaviours - a lack of empathy, a need for admiration, feelings of inadequacy, a desire to control others and low self-esteem – they are expressed completely differently in their outward actions. Overt narcissists are very easy to spot because they display all the traits we typically associate with narcissism. They’re very vocal, constantly telling everyone how great they are, how everyone else has failed and being completely insensitive to the needs of others. A covert narcissist however is less obvious, they’re more reserved and introverted so are difficult to spot because they hide behind a mask of sensitivity and vulnerability.

Narcissism is all about control and manipulation For example, narcissists always shift blame onto their teammates and an overt narcissist will do this by criticising and taking every opportunity to tell you where you went wrong and how everything is your fault. Covert narcissists however use a more passive form of manipulation, creating confusion by implying you forgot something or remembered it incorrectly and using their workmates to supply constant re-assurance about their skills and talents.

Outwardly, overt and covert narcissists appear to be very different but as well as sharing the same insecurities, they exercise the same narcissistic behaviours and blame-shifting, projection and gaslighting are just some of the forms of control and manipulation they use. Whether you’re dealing with an overt or covert narcissist, being aware of their traits means you’ll be better placed to protect yourself and set some boundaries in place to deal with their dysfunction.